Absence
Hey there gang!!!! Okay, sorry for the long absence, but life has been hectic at best for me the last several months. I was riding high on life, but as you know; when you have the ups, you soon will get the downs!!!!
To start off, in March with less then 7 weeks of school left, they tell me that I have been paid incorrectly all school year long. To make a long story short, I battled using the union to a mediocre result at best. So, basically it ends up that I will have no summer paychecks and will have to work a second job this year. I was hoping that for once in my life I would not have to work a second or even a third job. Anyway, that is not that big of a deal. I am used to garbage like this, but then the second strike hit me.
Then the big bomb hit me. My eldest daughter who has been a problem on and off for a long time, well, she has decided that she does not want to be a part of our family. So, I have been battling myself as to what I should do. Do I force her to be a part of our family? Do I let a 12 year old have her way? How can she just give me up without a fight? What is her motive and how do I find out when she want talk?
So, what do I do? I do not want to lose my daughter, but I do not want to force her to do something she doesn’t want to do. Do I give her more time? Do I cut her off all together? My problem is that my family was on of the rare ones that my parents stayed together until my father’s untimely death. I have never been one of those statistics where divorce affected my family until mine.
Help!!!!! She will not go back to counseling and will not talk to me other then telling me that she does not want to be a part of our family. Could her mother have something to do with this just to spite me? Why would she, though, we have been on fairly good terms as of late other then the asking her to meet half way due to the higher gas prices. She does not like that. Also, I refused to pay for the braces on an 8 year old, could that have driven her to do this? Am I over analyzing the whole thing?
I am so frustrated right now it is just ridiculous. Actually, I would never want to lose a child to death, but it almost feels as if I have. Or is this worse because she is alive and I know that she is not happy with her dad and does not want to be with him.
So, this is where I have been for the past several months. I wish I had better news to report like I won the lottery or something of that nature. I apologize for the long absence, but it was unavoidable. Ugh!!! If you can help, it would be appreciated. Thank you.
Hey there gang!!!! Okay, sorry for the long absence, but life has been hectic at best for me the last several months. I was riding high on life, but as you know; when you have the ups, you soon will get the downs!!!!
To start off, in March with less then 7 weeks of school left, they tell me that I have been paid incorrectly all school year long. To make a long story short, I battled using the union to a mediocre result at best. So, basically it ends up that I will have no summer paychecks and will have to work a second job this year. I was hoping that for once in my life I would not have to work a second or even a third job. Anyway, that is not that big of a deal. I am used to garbage like this, but then the second strike hit me.
Then the big bomb hit me. My eldest daughter who has been a problem on and off for a long time, well, she has decided that she does not want to be a part of our family. So, I have been battling myself as to what I should do. Do I force her to be a part of our family? Do I let a 12 year old have her way? How can she just give me up without a fight? What is her motive and how do I find out when she want talk?
So, what do I do? I do not want to lose my daughter, but I do not want to force her to do something she doesn’t want to do. Do I give her more time? Do I cut her off all together? My problem is that my family was on of the rare ones that my parents stayed together until my father’s untimely death. I have never been one of those statistics where divorce affected my family until mine.
Help!!!!! She will not go back to counseling and will not talk to me other then telling me that she does not want to be a part of our family. Could her mother have something to do with this just to spite me? Why would she, though, we have been on fairly good terms as of late other then the asking her to meet half way due to the higher gas prices. She does not like that. Also, I refused to pay for the braces on an 8 year old, could that have driven her to do this? Am I over analyzing the whole thing?
I am so frustrated right now it is just ridiculous. Actually, I would never want to lose a child to death, but it almost feels as if I have. Or is this worse because she is alive and I know that she is not happy with her dad and does not want to be with him.
So, this is where I have been for the past several months. I wish I had better news to report like I won the lottery or something of that nature. I apologize for the long absence, but it was unavoidable. Ugh!!! If you can help, it would be appreciated. Thank you.
posted by Brewster at 6:53 AM
3 Comments:
Welcome back, I was hoping that it was because you won the lottery.
You have been busy. Im sorry to hear about work and how things were unclear.
I dont have reasons... but people push and shove for a reason even you are there, if youre not there then things might... stew?
I would just be there. It wont be a party but Id say love and be there.
...my 2 cents
Thank you, Darling. It has not been a good couple of months. But, no matter what, I will love her whether or not she wants me to.
You are overanalyzing...she is 12. I know it doesn't make it any easier, but it's true. Girls are tough at that age. Don't blame mom, because if it isn't true, it's only get her all riled up again. Pour some time on your problems....tell B you love her very much, whether she knows it or not, and that when she decides she is ready to see you again you will be very ready. Send her small things, cards, notes, small things you think she will enjoy, to let her know you are still thinking of her, but give her some space if it's what she wants right now. She'll come around....
glad to see you back too...Sprinkles on that?
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